Distilling ComplicatedHumans are complex individuals, intricately woven together, and even our day-to-day decisions are often layered. In most situations, there’s what we thought, what we said, what we did, and who dealt with the effects of it all. Still, whenever I hear, “It’s complicated,” I roll my eyes and think, “Oh, here we go.”

I think this because more often than not, the complicated part is not what was said or done or the effect of such things. Instead, the complicated part is that we don’t acknowledge how we feel in the first place.

A life in writing means that the writer examines his or her heart constantly. We look for where it all boils down and seek out the crux of the matter. Under all the layers, usually one emotion is hiding deep within. Typically, it’s not even a difficult or painful emotion, but simply because it’s been hidden it causes turmoil, spoiling the writing and frustrating every stroke of the pen. Yes, this is where the dreaded Writer’s Block sets in.

The moment you shine the light on what’s hidden, though, those fibers deep within loosen their grip. The logjam breaks and the words flow smoothly again.

In creating stories, writers weave convoluted plotlines. Yet when talking with non-writers about matters of the heart, writers don’t see complications. We see motives, hidden and open, and we see them not with judgment but with their potential to make a great story.

Writers can be wonderfully analytical and can handle convolutions with grace, charm, and sometimes with plot graphs. Most of the time, when non-writers label a situation as “complicated,” they’re applying a death sentence to open communication–or to open storytelling in the writer mind.

Writers seek to unearth the heart of the matter in all things, because that’s the thread holding it all together. The rest is just subplot and details. We bravely jump down the rabbit hole, perhaps because we think we can write our way out of anything.

Or maybe, it’s that we think we can write our way in.

Jody Brown is the author of Upside Down Kingdom, and is a multi-blogger, poet, and traveler. To learn more about her current writing projects, or for ways to donate toward their completion, see JodyBrown.com/writing.